Remove all the temptations to stay connected to your ex.
Here are some ideas to help you reclaim your space after divorce.
You need to create an environment that will both motivate and move you towards your goal.
To do so, you remove all of the temptations that lead to over-eating or eating the wrong foods.
Let me give you examples: You and your ex have children together; therefore you must be in contact with one another on a regular basis.
Unfortunately, your discussions with him always end in an argument. The deep resentments and hurts suffered in your marriage and actual divorce remain intact. If this is the case for you, know that you have not divorced on an emotional level. Somewhere inside of you there is still an attachment of some sort to either your marriage or your ex.
This is the real work of divorce recovery: becoming a single woman possessed of confidence, self-esteem, and an enthusiasm for life and most important, a complete break from the emotional turmoil that led to your divorce in the first place.
Within this framework you are free to do the inner work of healing.
My ex and I had a fairly amiable divorce and we have managed to move out of each other's lives albeit for the children. In reading the book, Leaving Him Behind by Sandra Kahn, she mentioned something that set off a light for me.
Obviously the less you have to do with your ex after divorce the better.
That is not to say that you cannot have a relationship with your ex, but it has to be radically different from the one you had while married.
You must build a new structure that empowers you versus disempowering you.