It would seem that someone so intent on “not having problems” would have some vested interest in his girlfriend of a year, whom he’s gone out of his way to keep from meeting his daughters, actually finally meeting them.
Do you know what his thoughts and opinions are about your meeting his daughters at his niece’s bridal shower?
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If you date a man with kids, then you will inevitably be deemed the hated stepmother.
You’re too young and cute for this title, and no one needs a complication like this in a relationship.
When I was 25, I married a man 12 years older than me.
At the time, our relationship seemed perfectly natural to me.
I know Dan’s sister very well, as well as her daughter (Dan’s niece), who is getting married in August 2015. If Dan is right that your being in his life will cause problems with his daughter, then a bridal shower is no place to invite those problems. If they have suspicions you are involved with their father, let their father be the one to address those questions. But, again, if Dan, knowing how much you want to be be a part of his whole life, to know his daughters, and to be included in special events, STILL won’t introduce you to his grown daughters after a whole year of dating, that’s a huge red flag — one that you should not ignore anymore.